Couples Therapy
As we go through the changes and challenges of life, our relationships change too. Sometimes this leads us to painful and frustrating experiences of disconnection, conflict, and distance.
Many couples find themselves in self-reinforcing negative cycles, in which habitual ways of reacting to conflict make it worse. These cycles can cause discouragement and confusion, making it difficult to find your way back to each other.
When stuck in these painful patterns, you may often find yourself feeling alone, even when you are together. You may long for the same level of connection, passion, or ease that you once had. Maybe you find yourself pulling away to avoid conflict or out of resignation, or perhaps pushing hard for connection with limited success.
Over time, frustration, hurt, or loneliness can build and leave both partners in pain. When these issues become chronic, you may find yourself questioning the future of the relationship.
Common issues I support couples with:
Managing conflict
Improving communication
Shifting patterns of distance and disconnection
Rebuilding trust
Fostering healthy sexual connection
Gaining deeper understanding of one another
Creating safety to share vulnerability and emotional connection
Processing grief and loss
Learning how to better support each other
Making sense of the challenges of the present, and how they may relate to the past
How I Work with Couples
When I work with couples in therapy, my intention is to help you build connection, mutual support, and a bond that is strong enough to hold even when difficulties arise between you. This happens first by coming to see and understand each other in new ways that respectfully honor the inner truths and unique experiences of both partners.
I work alongside you to help de-escalate cycles of conflict so that more often you feel like teammates, rather than opponents. Even when disagreements arise, we’ll work to help you stay together in moving through them, rather than being pulled apart.
In some couples, this process may also involve developing greater clarity regarding whether you both want to remain in the relationship.
As the cycle of conflict becomes more manageable and emotional safety increases, it becomes possible to build a deeper level of trust, emotional connection, and a more secure bond. When this bond is strong, it becomes easier to naturally meet each other’s needs and to find workable solutions to the inevitable disagreements and points of tension that arise in relationships.
My approach is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a research-backed model that helps couples break negative cycles and build lasting emotional connection.
If you are seeking support in your relationship, feel free to reach out for a free consultation. I look forward to hearing from you.